Sejauh ini gue masih bingung dengan kehidupan. Bingung dengan ketakutan. Bingung dengan kebencian; dua hal mudah sekali menyebar, apalagi kepada mereka yang tidak terinformasikan. Ya. Takut dan benci adalah virus. Menyebar melalui tuduhan dan kecurigaan.
Menyebalkannya lagi, manusia cuma hidup sementara. Sembari menyebar rasa takut dan kebencian, mereka akan berproses kemudian mati. Tapi rasa takut dan kebencian tidak. Mereka menggerogoti kemanusiaan. Manusia akan terus lahir, secara harafiah, tetapi kemanusiaan belum tentu turut lahir bersamanya. Takut dan benci menjadi wabah. Pola pikir manusia menjadi medium inkubasi, sementara kemanusiaan adalah zat yang diserang.
Pada dasarnya manusia terlahir tanpa prasangka. Manusia-manusia muda masa depan, yang kemudian menjadi ahli waris rasa takut dan benci. Sementara manusia-manusia tua mati, virusnya terus menular.
Terima kasih telah mewariskan dunia yang penuh rasa takut dan benci, tetapi kami menolak untuk sakit. Dunia ini sudah setengah hancur ketika penghargaan kepada kehidupan dikalahkan rasa takut dan benci. Dunia ini sudah setengah mati ketika yang terjadi adalah perang, perang, dan perang. Kami menolak terjajah. Kami ingin hidup berani dan bertanggung jawab, saling membebaskan demi kemanusiaan. Bukankah itu yang namanya kemerdekaan?
Sialan mereka, habis menebar kebencian terus mati.
Lagi makan. Masih mencoba berdamai dengan buku Hukum Tata Negara dan slide-slide PowerPoint 32 MB. Harus damai aja, supaya nggak main hakim sendiri seperti ormas-ormas Islam itu. Besok UAS Hukum Tata Negata. Tab sebelah mikirin UAS Hukum Kesehatan take home yang baru dikerjain sebatas nulis nama dan NPM, belum lagi tugas makalah MPK Agama Islam yang dateng semena-mena.
Lagi banyak pikiran kayak begini, kok tiba-tiba kepikiran itu manusia. Ganggu aja. Manusia nggak notis. Manusia penuh lapisan kayak photoshop. Manusia yang muncul lewat potongan-potongan ingatan bodoh setiap gue denger Carnival Town. Manusia yang tetiba teringat kalau gue lagi jalan sendiri di hari yang bolong di Pasar Minggu. Manusia yang selalu jadi tebakan pertama gue kalau ada SMS masuk, meskipun selalu meleset. Kirim SMS kek. Apa gitu. Selamat ujian kek. Nanya apa kek. Manusia yang bikin gue suka gusar sendiri karena bingung. Manusia yang selalu terbersit kalo gue mendengar kata ‘sendiri’. Manusia yang bikin gue berkelut, “terus yang dulu itu apa, nyet?” Manusia berzodiak. Manusia yang membuat gue notis setelah sekian lama kalau dia cuma merepresentasikan apa yang @ZodiacFacts bilang tentang zodiaknya. Oh tweet zodiak yang selalu gue retweet, kenapa baru sekarang gue makan batunya?
Pff… di saat gue harus nulis supaya beban pikiran berkurang gara-gara ini manusia, dia pasti lagi senang-senang sendiri. Yah, nggak sendiri sih. Sama orang lain aja.
Sialan ni manusia, mengorupsi waktu dan pikiran aja. Mana udah susah ketemu lagi.
Perkenalkan, nama gue Hipokritisisme, 19 tahun, dan gue kangen nyet sama lo, pengen cerita-cerita aja.
“If being insecure makes you detached from who you really are, then this is the right time to assure that you’re not meant to be there. But sometimes you can’t simply differ which one is the real you. Neither past nor present-self aren’t convincing enough for some people, right? That is why, keep your judgement for yourself. It’s the only self you better judge, and you need to judge, for a lifetime. And only cowards who judge everything but themselves.”—21.05.12
Hi. It doesn’t matter anymore how I’ve been missing you after all. How are you? Life’s good? How’s college? How’s the weather? When will you come by? All these questions are better left unasked. Well they are. Confession. I did once expect you to notice all these nonsense acts as you would have probably get it right. Now I know I better do something else as I don’t have any right to make you so. I can’t change people the way I change myself. You are what you’re making yourself up. Now that I don’t even expect you to know that I’ve been missing you, if it could only make you feel bothered.
Life goes on without an urge to even care about this certain thing. Your life, my life, these both go on through their own paths. I know where I have been and where I’m heading. Here’s the point where I can say that I fully respect your choice. Who cares if I think it harms you more than if you could just be true to yourself? Who am I trying to intervene your state of mind? I respect your choice no matter what. Whether or not it hurts, I have no power to judge. Life’s a process, and you have a right to deal with your own self, if you decide to do so. Make it worth it.
Happy international day against homophobia and transphobia, by the way, and have a nice day.
Sincerely, your friend.
PS: I know how Aquarians work; they are stubborn yet fragile :))
“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”—Gautama Siddharta (via niniesrina)
I dreamed you last night. Feeling was like, well we met up in a bus. Couldn’t recognize who dat gurl standing next to you, but your presence seemed real enough. You put a quote on my black-lathered binder. The words got vanished as I woke up. But I’m sure it’s something nice.
This is a dream from a full-day-Tumblr-blogger. Couldn’t get any cinematic than this :)
But then things changed. Real life is layered, lessons learned.
“Indonesia bukan negara agama, tetapi Indonesia juga bukan negara sekuler. Lantas, Indonesia ini negara apa? Sejauh mana agama (atau badan yang mengatasnamakan agama) bisa dibenarkan mencampuri hak warga negara?”—11.05.12. Pertanyaan yang terus timbul sejak invasi ekstrimis ke Kuliah Umum Irshad Manji di Salihara, Jumat (4/5) lalu. Sampai sekarang belum sempat ditanyakan. Jangan sampai lupa.
Except highly afraid of getting torn down like Sodom and Gomorrah, I still don’t get why people disgustedly disapprove marriage equality. Well if heterosexual couple can marry each other, whether or not they decide to have kids, why don’t homosexual couple get the same right?
Legalizing it doesn’t mean all of you should have same-sex partner and marry them. Legalizing it doesn’t mean straight people are converted into homosexual, as if it were contagious. No it’s not. It’s not even a mental illness (surprise!).
Legalizing it does mean that everyone, regardless of sexual preference, can marry who they love. Legalizing it does mean that same-sex companionship are protected by state. Legalizing it does mean that less people would lie to themselves and stop marrying someone they don’t love just to satisfy the society.
When will people acknowledge that love is simply universal? When I say universal, emphasize it please, it’s not just about love across ethnicity, religion, country, or age. It is broader than that, as it sounds, universal. It knows no gender and sexual identity.
Some people still think that same-sex love doesn’t exist. Well guess what, it does.
Some people still think that same-sex marriage would destroy family values. Well guess what, whose families would be destroyed? If you don’t agree with this kind of marriage, just don’t get one.
As my lecturer stated that it was almost impossible in this country to legislate marriage equality, because of some fundamental reasons, I fully understand that there are things to do before this country needs to consider it.
We’re still dogmatized. Some people are made up in certain beliefs, that they’re gonna use what they believe to attack others. Hatred is allowed. Violence is normally seen. Some people are ignorant. When they see transgender person, they see less of a human. Some people are easy to stereotype groups, that they generalize everything based from what they heard or saw. Some people don’t want to get to know the differences. They just hate it. Disgust it. Deny it. Name it abnormal and contagious, or unnatural and needs to be cured.
Bullying. Since school we had been taught that to be safe it’s good to be common, follow the majority. Just nod. Bullying is fun. Being bullied is a process to be tough, some people believe it’s a normal stage of school life. Well guess what, it’s not bullying that makes people tough, it’s bravery. Bullying leaves scars, physically and mentally. Bullying encourages suicides at some level. Bullying is inherited, in the name of solidarity and character-building. No it’s not. It’s violence. It doesn’t educate. It justifies oppression. How can’t it remind you of tyranny?
Bullying survivors, they get some rights taken from them. They get some issues are exploited, upside down. For some of them, it’s not easy to get some help. You can always tell parents if you need some protection. But some of these kids couldn’t just tell it straightly. If you are Chinese-descent and you are bullied because of it, you can drop all your sorrow to your parents, as you know they once felt the same thing. Similarity, one of a kind. If you are bullied because of your economic status, or religion you affiliate, you can also tell your parents as they are just the same as you, and you know they wouldn’t be angry to you. But when you are bullied because of your sexual orientation, and/or your gender expression, who can you tell to? Parents are both straight, supposedly. They might react something you wish never happen. You’re afraid they would change. You’re afraid they would hate you. You afraid God dislikes it.
Then you’re silenced. Although you know it doesn’t make things better.
Where’s equality? Where’s acceptance? Where’s the love?
I know there’s issue growing out there, saying this and that. Then hatred comes, as people are labeled. It has been too crowded. Too many prejudices. I wish we could just stop right here. Let the speaking mouths closed for a while. Give the middle fingers time for a rest. Make time to think. What’s up with all these hatred? What are you afraid of? Do you really think people should be punished just because they’re queer? Do you really think openly-lesbian person can’t write a book about something that is not related to her “lesbianity”? Can you give a space for free speech? Can you debate something you disagree with dignity, not by hitting people’s faces and ripping the books as if God told you to do so? Can you tolerate diversity? Can you respect human being? Can you let a couple holding hands each other without giving them a curious staring? Can you put yourself in our shoes? Can you feel what it’s like to be forced to follow what you don’t conform to do; or what it’s like to be someone else; to be silenced; to be mocked; to be underestimated; to be denied from reality; to be excluded; to be laughed at; to be dehumanized?
If you’re still a human being, please stop the violence, in the name of anything. God doesn’t set us different to quarrel each other. God loves diversity, that’s why It makes us so. (My) God loves queers too, that’s why It lets us born this way. It loves straight people too, don’t worry.
I wish one day there’s gonna be a place where humanity is appreciated. Where people’s orientation is love, where you can hold your lovers’ hand, propose them, marry them, raise a complete family happily ever after regardless of sexual orientation. No one discriminates. It’s a place where hatred and fear are far locked up in history, where the people are enjoying their freedom by respecting each others’ rights. A place where religions are not used for bad things, where religious people tolerate diversity and critical thinking. A place where transgenders, gays, lesbians, whatever they are, are treated as humane as they should be treated. A place where jokes don’t bully, and books aren’t scared. A place where extremists are documented so people know how dehumanizing it was when they oppressed. A place where coming out is not even an issue. A place where everyone can be who they are; living a dignified life, out and proud.
One day I will be in somewhere like this. That day, remind me to reopen this post. But until then, it’s just a bitter sweet daydream shared on an odd weblog. Are things gonna really change? ;)
“Fear is humane. Fear is reasonably fine. But you don’t have anything to keep you living with fear. There’s nothing wrong with who you are, with your own difference, there’s always gonna be love that matters from those who see you sincerely. There’s gonna be space of humanity for differences, and yet people are now making everything as if majority had become “something”. I can’t stand.”—10.05.12
Ospek, hal yang paling gue tolak kedua di dunia ini setelah homophobia. Salah satu argumen yang selalu digunakan senior ketika mengospek adalah bahwa hal-hal tersebut (pembentakan, hormat paksa, disiplin paksa, pemberian tugas primitif, tunduk, tertib, diam, sopan, sadar hierarki) sengaja “diajarkan” kepada junior karena itu merupakan sesuatu yang akan dihadapi di masa yang akan datang. Junior diharapkan sudah siap dari sekarang dengan kerasnya kehidupan.
Sekilas, junior akan mengangguk-angguk patuh setelah mendengar argumen tersebut.
Sekilas, junior akan menggunakan argumen itu untuk meneruskan tradisi ospek kepada junior-junior berikutnya.
Sekilas, argumen itu nampak logis.
Tapi ternyata omong kosong.
Dengan argumen yang sama, kenapa nggak sekalian diajarkan cara berhubungan seks yang aman? Cara pake kondom? Dosis pil KB yang tepat? Bener kan? Hubungan seks juga sesuatu yang akan dihadapi di masa yang akan datang, dengan segala kerasnya kehidupan.
Munafik. Ospek adalah warisan senioritas sistemik. Kerasnya kehidupan nggak perlu “diajarkan”, apalagi oleh orang-orang yang statusnya juga masih mahasiswa, hanya karena mereka masuk duluan. Biarlah manusia mempelajari sendiri kerasnya kehidupan, mengumpulkan pengalaman sendiri.
Ospek itu nggak masuk dalam kurikulum, tapi melembaga secara materiil dalam sistem pendidikan, berjenjang dari pendidikan dasar sampai tinggi. Malu. Memalukan. Di saat pendidikan idealnya bertujuan untuk menciptakan manusia-manusia yang merdeka jiwa dan raganya, merdeka hati dan pikirannya, di awal tahun ajaran mereka malah diseragamkan dengan label yang merendahkan: JUNIOR.
Kawan-kawan, inilah salah satu budaya Indonesia yang harus kita sadari dan akui. Kalau memang kita harus bangga dengan budaya lokal, unconditionally, maka sambutlah dia: SENIORITAS. Patut bangga loh karena negara-negara tetangga nggak ada yang mau mengakui budaya yang satu ini :)
Teringat di sore terakhir Queer Camp, dalam sesi “yang-sepertinya-yoga”, Bunda Nona meminta kami untuk menyentuh bagian tubuh yang menurut kami merupakan kelebihan sekaligus kelemahan dengan menggunakan kedua tangan. Bagian tubuh tersebut disentuh selama beberapa saat, sembari memikirkan apakah sudah tepat kami memilih bagian tubuh tersebut. Bunda Nona kemudian meminta kami mengundang secara pribadi sang “pemberi kehidupan” untuk masuk ke dalam bagian tubuh yang kami pegang masing-masing.
Menurutku, bagian tubuh yang menjadi kelebihan sekaligus kelemahan adalah otak. Makanya waktu itu aku memegang kepala. Lama sekali. Kurasa sudah tepat. Otak berpikir. Ia menimbang. Ia mengingat. Ia memutuskan. Aku bersyukur bisa memanfaatkannya untuk hal-hal seperti itu. Hidup dengan logika, melihat sesuatu secara teratur, merangkai sebab-akibat, menemukan solusi. Otak adalah kelebihan karena ia membuatku hidup di tengah ide yang terus bergulir. Ide, yang membuat kita berbeda satu dengan lainnya. Gagasan, postulat, konsep, teori, semua muncul dari otak. Apalagi yang lebih menakjubkan dari itu?
Tapi… otak juga bermimpi. Ia berharap. Ia membayangkan. Ia menyusun realita alternatif. Ia mengandaikan. Ia menduga. Ia memperkirakan. Ia meramal. Ia berfantasi. Ia membuat keputusan prematur. Ia tidak bisa berhenti. Ia mencuriga. Ia menepis kenyataan pahit. Ia membuatku gelisah. Ia menolak lupa. Ia terus bertanya-tanya. Nah! Inilah yang berbahaya!
Ia mulai ganas, tak mau berhenti memikirkannya. Sudah kuperintahkan untuk berhenti, banyak hal lain yang harus dipikirkan, harus dikerjakan. Tapi ia masih melanjutkan. Semua praduga dirangkainya. Kesimpulan-kesimpulan keluar begitu saja, memicu banyak tanda tanya yang mau tau mau menjadi beban dalam kepala. Mana mungkin aku menuruti perintahmu, otak? Kamu egois! Kamu terkadang terlalu logic. Kamu tidak tahu sedang berhadapan dengan apa. Kamu harus menunggu… harus sabar, dan berhenti memikirkannya untuk sejenak!
Kamu tahu aku tak kuasa mengendalikanmu. Bergeliat saja terus. Menduga saja terus. Aku capek! Kamu terus membuat kesimpulan, tapi tak pernah memberiku nyali untuk mengujinya! Kalau memang demikian, berarti aku harus mengundang “keberanian” sebagai “sang pemberi kehidupan”. Keberanian harus masuk, biarkan ia meracuni setiap neuronmu, biar kamu tahu rasa. Biar kamu bernyali. Mungkinkah?
Kamu akan berani menguji dugaanmu. Akan berani mengetes kesimpulan prematurmu. Apapun yang terjadi, apapun hasilnya, kamu tahu itulah kenyataan. Aku benci jika kamu terus bergumul tapi tak punya nyali untuk memuntahkannya langsung. Aku capek berpikir sendiri! Otak, kamu tidak seharusnya bekerja sendirian dan berlebihan seperti ini!
If you feel very attracted to members of the same sex, or both sexes, but need to feel like you have accepted it within yourself, here is a guide to help you. You have found out your sexual orientation, and you are perfectly normal. Accepting who you are - and being proud of who you are - is the next step on the road to coming out of the closet, and eventually to having a successful gay or lesbian relationship. Some people have difficulty in accepting their sexual orientation, either because of personal or societal discomfort or pressure. Most people in the LGBT community know from experience that accepting your sexuality will lead to your becoming a happier, more open person.
In this guide, the term gay has been used to include all forms of homosexuality and bisexuality, whether that be people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual or pansexual.
1. Know if you are Gay. Sometimes people question their sexuality. There are many degrees of sexual orientation, and if you find you don’t fit easily into one category, perhaps you are bisexual. Don’t allow yourself to be labeled until, or unless, you are ready and willing to be. If you feel that you don’t fit, or you can’t understand why you aren’t like other people in your life because you are different, remember that you are you, and not anyone else; and that being yourself and accepting yourself for the person that you are is something to be immensely proud of.
2. Remember that you didn’t choose to be attracted to members of the same sex, and that attempts to change your orientation are usually painful and pointless in the end. When talking with heterosexual friends or family members, it’s sometimes tough to help them understand this, because they have no frame of reference for your experience. Try to encourage others to see your sexual orientation in the same way as they see your eye colour - it is something you were born with and did not choose. It is something that is simply a part of your being, and not something you can change. There isn’t any need to - being gay is just another way of being, and there is nothing wrong with it at all, neither is there anything wrong with you for being gay.
Some people in the world believe that your sexual orientation is a choice. If this is true for you, especially if you feel attracted to both genders, you might want to evaluate your choices. Leading a gay lifestyle can be a challenging choice in many societies throughout the globe. If you feel that you made a choice, you should feel comfortable with that choice. Everyone has their own battles and choices to make, and the norms of societies may not necessarily be normal for you. If you do feel that you want to make the choice to accept your sexuality, it would be best to find friends and loved ones to support you, but do not feel - or let yourself be - pressured into believing that you should "change your ways". If anyone tries to force an opinion on you that you do not agree with, such that your desires themselves are unnatural, sinful or symptoms of a mental disorder, look elsewhere for support. There is no evidence that “helping homosexuals to become heterosexual” is possible, and treatments to "change" sexual orientation that were common in the 1960s and 1970s were very damaging to those patients who underwent them and affected no change in their sexual orientation.
3. Develop and express your individuality - if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, whatever it may be, then be proud of it - you are the one and only you. Understandthat a person who is gay is no different from any other person. Like everyone else, gay people have dreams and goals, and want companionship and love just like anyone else you know. Strive every day to be the best person you can be, and remind yourself of the positive qualities and attributes that make you uniquely who you are.
4. Tell yourself that for people to accept you, first you must accept yourself. If you can’t accept your sexual orientation and feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, then other people find it harder to accept you fully. It’s your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Tell yourself: “I am a person with feelings and intellect and a life, just like everyone else. I am unique and individual, and no one has the right to choose my life for me. The fact that I am gay is just another facet of who I am, just as being creative, or optimistic, or having brown eyes is. I may not be like many of my friends, but I choose to live my life authentically and happily. It’s my life, and I choose to be happy”.
5. Remember that you are not alone. There are many, many gay people in all sorts of communities, and there are many people there for you when you need support. There may be agencies, groups, advisers, family members and friends that you can turn to, even if it is just someone to inform of your feelings. Find a group or a hangout where you feel comfortable, and where there will be other gay people to talk with. Make some new friends, and by doing so, you will establish a new network of supportive and encouraging people around yourself.
6. Show people who you are. Coming out of the closetis the boldest step in accepting your sexual orientation, but now that you are able to live “out”, it does not mean that you have to change who you are or what you like. Don’t go trying to change yourself or wishing that you were like the other people in your life to cater to the comfort levels of others - there are over 6.7 billion people in the world, and you can’t please everyone - and those who care about you will still love you for who you are. If someone can’t accept the one small fact of who you are that is your sexuality, and can’t still respect you for the person that you are, then they aren’t worth your time or letting it bother you, because it’s not your fault that the person can’t accept it.
1. Be selective. The entire world does not need to know about your sexual orientation. It is not necessary to broadcast who you are, and no one should make you, if you find that telling everyone makes you uncomfortable. Know that, while you want and deserve to live an authentic life, it may not be a good idea to expose yourself to narrow-minded people who may offend you.
2. Don’t come out to a particular person if it doesn’t feel right to you. This is a good rule to follow in general - there could be many reasons why, but if it doesn’t “feel right” then it is probably not the right time to come out to that person. The time to tell them may be later, or never. What is most important is that you come out to yourself. Once you are at ease with your own sexual orientation and have a healthy self-image, the when and how of coming out often fall into place naturally.
3. Don’t worry about what others think; what is important is that you are true to yourself and considerate of others - that doesn’t mean you need to cater to the sensibilities of others. If a friend or a member of your family is having trouble coming to terms with your orientation, you may have to give them time and be patient, or in the long term face the end of that friendship.
4. If you are in a relationship, refrain from using the word “room-mate” or words to that effect to describe your partner. And don’t let your loved ones get away with that, either - if you allow them to pretend by introducing your partner as your “friend” or “room-mate,” then you’re allowing them to put a mask on you and your partner, both. Don’t get nasty about it, just correct them gently, for example:
"Well, yes we do live together. Auntie Joan, David is my partner" or "Auntie Joan, I noticed that Jo was introducing you to my girlfriend, Andrea. We dated for a couple of months before moving in together, and we’ve been together about a year now. I’m so glad you finally get to meet her… Andi, come here, sweetie, and meet my Aunt Joan".
Once your family get the idea that you aren’t about to sit back and let them believe that you and David are "just room-mates", or that you and Andi are "just really good friends", they will stop attempting to put a mask on your relationship and be more open, too.
5. Remember that being gay does not require you to conform to typical gay stereotypes. Most people who are gay are indistinguishable from those that aren’t, share the same interests, goals and dreams for their lives. Being a homosexual person does not necessarily make you any less masculine or feminine, and there is no need or pressure to conform to stereotypes that don’t feel right to you - because you are who you are.
6. Transsexuals can also be gay. There are plenty of FTMs who are gay, who are into other guys and same goes for MTFs, MTFs who are into other girls. Gender and sexuality are not the same thing. It shows that being gay does not make one “less of a wo/man”
1. Use good judgement. Sadly, not everyone in the world is a modern, accepting person. Don’t broadcast this information to your entire community if you live in a small town or an area where LGBT persons are less likely to be accepted and where you are likely to be harmed physically or emotionally.
2. If it is very likely that your coming out will have a bad outcome, then don’t. As long as you know who you are, that’s plenty for the short term. In the end, your sexual orientation is your business. Eventually, people may figure it out, and you will need to decide whether to stay in that situation or move on to a place that is more accepting.
3. If you are still being supported by parents whom you are quite sure would disown you for being gay, it may be prudent to wait to tell them until you are independent. It may be vital for your survival to hold off on coming out until, for example, you have graduated high school or college, or you have moved into a place of your own.
4. You may regret the acceptance of your orientation in the future, especially if you’re in a part of the world where the homosexual, bisexual and transgender communities are prosecuted by a specific culture. You may have a choice in changing your lifestyle; that is, perhaps you feel you need to live under the guise of being heterosexual for your own safety, and perhaps even your own personal happiness. It is not always easy to remain accepting of your orientation depending on where you live, and the views of the people who are most important to you. There are non-profit organizations that exists to both support you in your acceptance, and also in case you would want to try and lead a heterosexual lifestyle, although you can never change your orientation. Although, it is important to note that the American Psychological Association has declared that groups claiming to cure homosexuality are dangerous and unhealthy. It is very mentally and physically unhealthy to suppress your feelings and your true self. It is up to you to decide what’s best for your life.
Hari ini bukan tentang karena saya perempuan, kalian laki-laki, atau sebaliknya. Atau bukan keduanya.
Hari ini tentang cara memandang dan bersikap:
Tentang mahalnya perjuangan untuk:
Jangan jadikan hari ini dan hari-hari setelah ini murahan bagai fasilitas ‘istimewa’ yang katanya bertujuan ‘menghargai’ bernama:
atau Ladies dalam embel-embel lain. Dalam bentuk lain. Kemasan baru, isi lama. Patriarki.
Jangan jadikan hari ini dan hari-hari setelah ini sepahit ancaman-ancaman seperti:
Tidak semua perempuan butuh celana panjang
Jam pulang beraktivitas yang lebih awal
Payung untuk menggetok kepala orang
Pasangan yang mengantar-jemput
Melainkan mulut dan nafsu kalian yang kelewatan, harus dibungkam
Perempuan bukan spesies ajaib
Hewan hampir punah
Peri berpunggung bolong
Apa yang perlu ‘diistimewakan’ dari perempuan? Kenapa kalian begitu usil? Kenapa begitu suka siul-siul nggak penting ketika perempuan lewat? Kalian pindahan dari planet Uranus - nggak pernah lihat perempuan - hah?
Hari ini bukan hari penghitungan dosa dimana kalian berharap Dia akan salah hitung, bisa disuap, atau amnesia tiba-tiba; soal siapa yang salah dan siapa yang tidak.
Hari ini tentang kemanusiaan. Tentang saya, kamu, dia, mereka, kalian, kita, kami. Artis, aktivis, karyawan, tukang baso, penjaga counter pulsa, petugas kebersihan, juragan kontrakan, atlet, mahasiswa, anak punk, calo parkir, wakil direktur, pendiri yayasan, penjaga kuburan, dan lainnya…..
Malam ini aku bermimpi tentang kebebasan yang membebaskan sesama manusia, kesetaraan
yang mendamaikan, keberagaman yang mengindahkan. Hei, jangan lupa bangun! :)
Hari Kartini sih udah lewat, dan mungkin sebagian orang hanya memaknainya dengan mengagumi perempuan-perempuan yang tetiba nyanggul dan berkebaya tanpa tujuan yang jelas. Tapi bagi gue, hari Kartini adalah hari perjuangan pengakuan status kemanusiaan. Dan untuk itu, satu hari aja nggak akan pernah cukup. Kata-kata dalam postingan ini didedikasikan untuk hari-hari yang akan datang, hari-hari yang terus diperjuangkan anak manusia dalam meraih kesetaraan terlepas dari apa kelaminnya dan bagaimana dia menggunakannya. Satu hari aja nggak akan selesai. I’m in!